To live peacefully with your emotions, don’t worry about what you are based on what you feel. You can’t stop feeling happy and sad, but you can stop hoping and fearing that each emotion will last forever.
You are a platform for emotions, an observer of emotions and emotions themselves. If you…
When my daughter was three or four, she had a horn on her bicycle. One day, when she was riding her bicycle to the park, she told me “I’m going to beep my horn and make everybody happy”. When my daughter sounded her horn, everybody in her world was happy. That is how we spread joy. Imagine what you can do to make everybody in the world happy. Beep beep.
The other person is never the problem.
The problem is our reaction.
The external event (someone is rude to you) will always happen, every day, often multiple times a day. We cannot stop others from being rude — but we can change how we react.
I get so excited I could burst. I get so afraid I could cry. I get so angry I could… It’s not necessary to be all or nothing. Balance is the key. Each day comes with a bit of each type of emotion. You might say these are mood swings, but they’re not, really. I try to look at it as experiencing the spectrum of my emotions.
When it’s anger that I encounter, I try to determine why I feel that way. What brings on the feeling? Is this something that I can control? Ultimately, no. Although, yes, I should be able to. I choose to feel the way I feel. When it’s anger, I always regret feeling that way. I can’t come to terms with the anger. I don’t want to feel the anger. I automatically want to recant anything that has resulted from that anger. And when I say that, I mean in that same second.
The feeling of happiness, I want to last. I know it won’t. That’s unrealistic. And that’s ok. All my feelings are part of me. And I have so much to be thankful for.
Each day brings it’s own joys and challenges. Life is a joy.